Monday, September 24, 2007

Too much going on

So basically the court thing went well. My lawyer was happy. I'm a little annoyed by the fact that I have to go to 'communication lessons'. If 13 years of marriage, including about 3 years of therapy weren't able to teach him that communication isn't supposed to involve threats, swearing and going on and on unintelligibly (believe me, I'm NOT exaggerating), then I wonder what kind of magic they think they can work when I'm totally unmotivated...

A good mom should be motivated, right? But I guess there's a limit to the amount of abuse I want to subject myself to, even if (theoretically) it is 'for the good of the children'. I think registered letters, for example, is a much better form of communication. He really is one of the few people I find I just can't communicate with. Fortunately, his current mental state is so bad that he can't keep himself together for any period of time, so other people are able to see why. I hope this happens quickly - otherwise, it will mean a lot of driving and a lot of wasted days.

So, although no custody suit is looming over me anymore, I'm still really angry that the social worker chose to knowingly lie about things. Even the fact that the judge didn't buy it (she totally didn't) doesn't make me feel any better about it. And I have another question for the social worker: even if the fact that my kids were born through IVF is relevant (I don't know why it would be, but let's say it is), how did you, Ms. Social Worker, decide that the problem was with me and that my ex 'stood by me' (hence giving him bonus points for dedication)???

In other news, Ohad and I were never able to really reach a decision about the amnio. The default was that we have an appointment tomorrow morning at 10. Since we didn't cancel it, we're going. I can't say I'm looking forward to it, but I feel just as calm as I did last time, though this time I'm not really worried about the results either...

Ohad has promised to spoil me for 2 days (and when he says it, he means it). So it's not all bad :-)

2 comments:

kirby said...

Hope the amnio goes well. I keep trying to find an upside in all of this mess, but it's tough. Maybe the only pro is that since he was such a jerk for so long you actually left instead of "toughing it out" for the kids or whatever. And then you met Ohad. Maybe everything can still work out for the best?

Anyhow. Hugs. I go for bloodwork tomorrow morning.

Bea said...

I'm glad it's been resolved in the way you expected. Sounds like an awful lot of pulaver to come, but hopefully the worst is over. Good luck tomorrow (or is it today already?)

Bea